How to get over someone when they never say goodbye

(This is a blog I posted on March 16, 2011. I was going through some of my old accounts and happened to see it. I do not remember writing this, but I did. I am going to post a follow-up to it soon.)

Relationships come to an end all the time, and the healing process is hard it takes a while for the wounds to heal. Pretty much everyone knows that and you know that but still go into a relationship. You can break up with them or they can leave you, and that’s it. You say bye and walk off in different directions. It’s the best thing to do because it would have never worked out anyway. When you get that one chance to have a good relationship and can be so happy and so in love, it’s the best thing for you, you think it can’t get any better than this. The two of you get engaged and start planning you whole future together.

What happens when that one you were going to spend the rest of your life with is gone?

You get a call and the other person on the line tells you that they have passed away. At first you think, this is a sick joke. But turns out that it is true. The next few days are a blur, your there talking to people interacting, but you’re really not there. Your mind is somewhere else, it at the time you two spent at the park together, the night you spent hours laying in each other’s arms looking at the stars, the day they said I want to spend the rest of my life with you. You make it to the funeral and you think it’s a dream, this can’t be happening. Your just so numb and can’t feel anything.

Days past and your still numb can’t eat, don’t want to do anything. The next months go better you get out meet people and have fun you feel like the past years with that person never happened. When a year hits, you start remembering them, you remember the good times and the bad times, you realize that they wouldn’t want to be sad; they would want you to be happy and to live your life. You miss them so much but know that they are in a better place and are happy.

But still how can you go off and be happy, when the one you gave your heart to never said bye? You can move on and be happy, find another person to be with. Even though no one can take their place, you will find happiness along the way.